Post edited 11:15 am – August 22, 2010 by keanani
mtm said: And there have been many stories how babies are blamed for the death of their mother, especially in certain cultures if the baby is a girl and although not directly neglected, they haven't been cared for properly. This leads to not being as attuned to the children as a mother would be, sometimes causing the missing of signs of serious illnesses and death that way.
This is true. Certain cultures view females as not as valuable. I remember Maxine Hong Kingston's book, "Warrior Woman", and the value of females in her world, was revealed with her phrase "girls are maggots in the rice". Cultural traditions can also serve to help mothers and children in tasking care of their children. In traditional Hawaiian Culture, the practice of "hanai" is still attempted today, although under U.S. and Hawaii State Law, it is not "legal".
hanai:
~To raise, rear, feed, nourish, sustain; provider, caretaker.
~Foster, adopted. Keiki hānai, foster child.
Hawaiians culturally regard the "ohana", or family, which includes everyone and anyone related, whether by blood or not, as "family". The practice of "hanai" entails that a child would be given away to another relative, for caretaking, as an adoption, or in many instances to give childless couples, or women a child of their own if they could not have a child or to replace a lost child.
My mother went through this after her father drowned when she was four. My grandmother was a lot younger than my grandfather, and they were not legally married. So my grandmother gave my mother to relatives, that included my mother's grandparents, great aunt and great uncle and an assortment of cousins, some in the same hanai boat. I guess my grandmother needed to lead her single life for a few years as my mother was raised without her mother making much contact. My mother's great grandparents, a man of Hawaiian & English ancestry, and a woman of Hawaiian ancestry, hanai'd a child of Japanese ancestry orphaned by the death of her Japanese immigrant parents. The Hawaiian people (ethnically) were very open to people of all ethnicities and tended to intermarry with every ethnic group that came to Hawaii's shores. Children tended to be an assortment of all sorts of ethnicities and mixtures.
If a culture has a stong sense of family that includes the extended family of relations that have some connection, whether blood, marriage or even hanai'd, it serves the parents and children well that there is someone who will not allow a child to be lost or not taken care of.
A grandparent, and elder is known as a "kupuna". Grandchildren are called "mo'opuna".
mo'o~ lizard; succession in genealogy.
puna~ short for "kupuna"; cuttlebone of an octopus.
Flanders said: Paleoanthropology aside, there's also the curious notion that one might need to have more than one child.
It must be that notion of immortatlity and needing to replace the two parents with at least one child each…
Flanders said: Look up "fistula"…
http://www.fistulafoundation.org/
http://www.fistulafoundation.o…../faqs.html
http://www.halftheskymovement